Susan Burrell

One Sip at a Time, Blog

Surrender in Divorce

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WHOLENESS.

Every human being is looking for that piece that will complete them; make them feel whole inside; feel worthy.   We often look outside of ourselves for our “soul” mate. Or look to our colleagues or bosses for acknowledgment, acceptance or praise.  When, actually each of us has wholeness within us all the time.  Love and self-esteem are always there, within, waiting to be recognized, acknowledged and taken out into the light. We get distracted by the bright and shiny outside of us, or by the gunk we have allowed to build up within our minds and hearts that can make it hard to see how beautiful and amazing we truly are. Love and self-esteem are always there, within, waiting to be recognized, acknowledged and taken out into the light. 

How do you find wholeness in the midst of pain and anguish?

How do you find wholeness, self-love and respect when you are feeling battered by divorce?

Through SURRENDER.

Surrender is different from giving up. Surrender is intentional. Surrender is giving into the pain in order to get through it.  It means surrendering the need to know or be right.  Surrendering the desperate desire for the experience to be over.  Surrendering ultimately becomes empowering because in order to surrender, you must open up enough to allow the Unknown or the Divine to be more present in you and around you.  Opening up to the Unknown allows the small mind to take a back seat to what you truly need to become. 

Surrendering becomes an ongoing practice in order to deal with the daily, and in my case hourly, seeming attacks that divorce can bring.  Surrendering can also strengthen your resolve to be strong, to stand your ground.  Not in a vicious or vindictive way but rather standing in the Truth of who you are and always have been.  Surrendering to a Higher Power, getting the small self out of the way so that your inner light and love can shine.  And you can become whole within yourself. 

All that, and a really good ring tone, helps too. ;)

Olga Singer